Sandra Hillawi

When emotional work starts to feel like too much

I’ve been sitting with something lately…

How many people who are committed to healing are actually exhausted.

Not because they’re doing it wrong.
But because they’ve been trying so hard for so long.

I see it in clients.
In practitioners.
In myself at times.

There comes a point where doing more emotional work doesn’t bring relief. It just adds another layer of effort. We feel tension and we just become tired. Even the most helpful tools can start to feel heavy.

Sometimes what’s needed isn’t another process or breakthrough.

It’s permission to slow down.

Allowance and Gentle Presence

To stop pushing emotions to move faster than the system can handle.
To listen instead of fixing.
To stay present without forcing anything to change.

This is where my own work has been returning again and again.

In EMO… Energy in Motion… we don’t treat emotion as something to ‘get rid of’. We meet it as it is. Gently. At the pace the body allows. When emotion is met this way, when its given allowance to be as it is with our gentle attention, it begins to move on its own. Not dramatically. Just honestly.

Practical Compassion

Compassion as we healers facilitate here isn’t a big spiritual concept. It’s very practical. It’s what allows us to stay with what’s real without shutting down ourselves or becoming overwhelmed. Its being able to be the presence of love as you witness another, with the desire and the capacity to help alleviate their suffering. Its capacity and ability to act.

Especially if you’re someone who supports others… being aware of how we meet our own emotional load matters more than any technique.

I’ll be sharing more about this over the coming weeks as I prepare for the EMO Energy In Motion Master training starting later this month.

Holding Emotional Space Without Depletion

For now I’m offering a live experiential session called Holding Emotional Space Without Depletion where you can simply feel what this approach is like, how emotional energy simply moves within us, with allowance and gentle loving attention and intention …. through the body and out… bringing about emotional healing and change.

The next one is Wednesday 14th January, UK 7.00 pm.

If it feels right you’re very welcome to join us.

No fee, no obligation, just experience.

Zoom Registration Link Reserve your place here.

With care,

Sandra Hillawi

A Moment to Pause

Hello,

I wanted to reach out quietly.

Over the past while, my work has been returning again and again to one simple question:

How do we stay human, resourced and kind – especially when life is demanding so much more than usual?

Much of what I’m seeing in clients and communities right now is exhaustion, emotional overload, and a deep need for steadiness, rather than more pushing and striving.

If you’re feeling that too you’re not alone.

I’m currently opening a small number of 1:1 sessions for people who want personal, grounded support a place to slow things down, listen to the body, and gently restore inner balance.

So much of life can pull us away from ourselves. At times we lose our sense of alignment or connection. It can be reassuring to remember that with gentle support and guidance we can find our way back – without having to struggle alone.

If that feels relevant, you’re welcome to get in touch to explore working together. My initial 45-minute consultation is always free and without obligation. You can reply to this email, book directly via my Calendly link, or reach out on WhatsApp — my number is below.

I’m also preparing a small number of group journeys beginning soon in January. The first focuses on Compassion – not as an abstract idea but as a practical capacity that helps us meet difficulty without collapsing or hardening. The second explores mastering energy and emotion for healing and transformation, for those who feel ready to go deeper. I’ll share more about these soon.

For now, I’m glad you’re here and I’m sending warmth your way.

With care,
Sandra

www.healingpainwithlove.com

sandrahillawi@gmail.com

Tel/Whatsapp: +44(0)7884443708

Two Pathways Home – Which Do I Choose?

I wrote something today about two different ways people find their way back to themselves.

Two Pathways Back to My Self – Which Way Do I Choose?

As we grapple with the waves of life, our emotions show us how well we are handling it all.

When it’s a struggle, when we get blocked and stuck in our painful emotions there are two ways back

The direct way and the indirect way.

The Indirect Way

This is the way we are accustomed to. Lets see what happened that disconnected you from yourself, lets go to the places that hurt and lets heal them, with our loving attention, our masterful techniques to bring about healing and restore inner flow.

We tune in to the matrix of scar events and heal them, bringing the energy and compassionate attention needed to help bring about the movement from stuckness into flow.

That’s what we have all been doing for many years, still do and its still valid and powerful. The process however can be painful as we revisit, at least for a while, the painful past. You gotta feel it to heal it… as they say.

And then there’s another way …

The Direct Way

This is perhaps a newer way. Well, everything evolves.

A Christmas Gift of Compassion 🎁

This time of year can hold many feelings gratitude, tenderness, exhaustion, reflection, hope.

These three audio gifts are offered as a soft place to land: moments of compassion, reassurance and loving presence, shared from my heart to yours.
There’s nothing you need to do, fix or understand, simply listen, receive and allow whatever wants to gently settle.

What’s included

🎶 My Happy Christmas Thankyou blessing and prayer for you
A musical thank-you to the year that has been and a gentle blessing for the one to come.

✨ A guided Divine Compassion experience
A recorded workshop, drawn from The Compassion Experience series. In this session we have a gentle exploration of compassion — moving from human, to Legendary into a wider field of Divine Compassion.
It includes reflective elements, a meditation and references the person of Jesus as an embodiment of love and forgiveness.
You’re welcome to listen simply as a presence, pause at any time or return to it when it feels right.

There’s a quiet space in the meditation, no need to stop the recording. The group’s reflections continue afterwards.

🎶 “Future Me” — an original song
A reflective piece inviting you to sense into the self you are becoming, a reconnection within moving from disconnection to oneness and love.

Together these offerings set out below are designed to support reflection, emotional integration and quiet renewal.

How to use this gift

There’s no right way to engage with this collection.

You might:

listen in one sitting
return to a piece when you need it
use it as a reflective pause over the holiday period
or simply let it wash over you without analysing anything

Let it meet you where you are.

With love and thanks,

Sandra

🎁

You’re welcome to listen in any order — or simply begin with the Christmas blessing below.

My thanks and blessings to you for 2025 – yes, sung to you !! to enjoy and reflect 🙂

A guided Divine Compassion experience (from The Compassion Experience Series)

An original song for your heart – my words (with a little help from AI! )

A gentle invitation into the New Year

If you feel drawn to deepen this compassionate space as we move into the New Year you’re warmly welcome to explore The Compassion Experience beginning in January.

There’s no expectation … just an open door.

Gentle Powerful Energy Healing

Jane’s eye was in agony — until love became her medicine

Following surgery Jane had had problems with one eye. Pain, pressure, inflammation, and this time she had an infection, redness, swelling of the eye lid and pressure.

She had to keep one eye closed and be away from the light to keep in comfort with also the risk of losing her balance. The hospital had given her drops to take every two hours but healing was slow and trying to open her eye gave her much pain.

Enter The Energy Healer …

Its such a blessing to know how to do energy healing, which is basically healing with the focussed energy of love. So I offered to see can I help make a difference with some gentle healing. Thankfully Jane accepted.

This was in phone call by the way, I just directed Jane where to place her attention, what kind of attention to place there and what kind of intentions to hold and then to allow everything, with love. I focused with her and held the space.

Healing Begins Immediately …

This is how it went …