Sandra Hillawi

Discovering The Stars of Your Life

A contemplative woman sitting on a rock, gazing at a sunset over a lake, surrounded by ethereal images of happy moments and connections with others.

I have been reflecting on this latest Star Matrix journey and what has made it so special and meaningful.

I think I have spent less time on the theory in the book this time, and more time on the essence of the themes in each step, allowing more spontaneity and natural flow in our sessions. As a result, at least from my side, every session has had beautiful, magical moments.

Several times I arrived at the course bruised from life, wondering, Will I be able to lead tonight? Will I be able to pull this class off?

And then we would begin.

Our energy handshake would create that beautiful connection between us all, each personal connection a little star in itself. Then came the sharing of personal star stories, discoveries, laughter, insights and sometimes those wonderful moments when something seemingly small suddenly revealed a much deeper meaning.

Every time, I left uplifted, my heart enriched and thankful again.

And perhaps that is one of the quiet gifts of Star Matrix.

Life naturally gives us difficulties, disappointments and painful experiences, and they can become very large in our awareness. Star Matrix invites us to deliberately explore something else that is also true: the moments of love, courage, connection, achievement, kindness, beauty, inspiration, synchronicity and joy that have been there throughout our lives.

When we begin collecting those stars, something happens.

We don’t just remember good experiences. We begin to discover ourselves through them.

Our own memories start showing us evidence of who we are, what matters to us, what lights us up, what we have overcome, what we have given and received and what has made our particular life meaningful.

The stars were always there. We simply hadn’t necessarily joined them together before.

Star Matrix is a beautiful, easy state changer and such a wonderful experience to explore and share with a receptive community.

As this particular journey has been so heart-touching, I want to say a special thank you to everyone who has been part of it. Twelve weekly sessions give a lovely community time to grow and that in itself becomes something valuable, a little source of support in our lives.

I have now taught Star Matrix Master around twelve times. What amazes me is that every journey is different and every one has been meaningful and valuable in its own way. There is always another star to discover, another story whose significance we hadn’t quite seen before, another aspect of ourselves waiting to be recognised.

It is such a useful life skill and self-help practice to carry with us.

Star Matrix Masters share their experiences

Amy, taking Star Matrix Master for the first time:

“I thoroughly enjoyed the experience and have much gratitude. I learned a lot about my own energy capabilities and have grown spiritually in the journey.”

Barbara, returning to Star Matrix Master once again:

“It is always a great energy support attending the weekly class. I especially appreciate Sandra’s flexibility, allowing spontaneity which is empowering to us students. Inspirational!”

Helen, taking the course as a refresher:

“Taking the course as a refresher has allowed us to delve deeper and experience star moments and events more fully, a lovely evolution of the course material I think.

I’ve thoroughly enjoyed the journey and want to thank you all. It’s been lovely sharing, exploring and learning with all you beautiful souls! 💖🌟🤗”

Penny, returning after completing the next level in Star Therapy:

“I feel it has ‘anchored my soul’ in a foundation of ways to view my life as a perpetual string of star moments. Wow… thank you all! 💫”

Discover Your Own Star Matrix

The next Star Matrix journey begins on 14 October at 6pm UK time.

We welcome new travellers who would like to discover their own Star Matrix for the first time, uncovering the treasures of their lives through their positive star memories and experiencing the joy of sharing those discoveries with a receptive group.

And we warmly welcome past travellers back.

Because you never really take the same Star Matrix journey twice.

You arrive as the person you are today, with more life behind you and different things calling for your attention. You notice stars you missed before. Old memories reveal new meaning. New stars have appeared. And gradually, through your own lived experiences, a richer picture of your true self begins to emerge.

Perhaps there are stars in your life whose significance you haven’t discovered yet.

Perhaps it’s time to find them.

Love and thanks to all our travellers on the energy path of love.

Till the next time.

If you’d like to join us for the next Star Matrix Master journey beginning 14 October, contact me and I’ll send you the details.

Sandra Hillawi

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Ive been a little quiet for a while

I’ve been a little quiet for a while.

Life has been asking a lot of me recently and it just confirms how important it is to have simple tools that help us stay steady and stable.

So I’ve been getting back to basics myself… back to where it all started over 25 years ago for me with EFT and Energy Tapping.

It’s a gentle yet powerful approach for changing our emotional state, reducing stress and finding greater calm, clarity and resilience…. and it makes a real difference in everyday life.

Yesterday I gave my Modern Energy Tapping Foundation Course page a makeover to bring it up to date.

So if you’ve ever wanted to learn a practical skill that you can use for yourself, your family, or perhaps as the first step towards helping others, I’d love to share it with you.

You can find all the details on the link below.

Modern Energy Tapping Foundation Course

And if you’re wondering whether it’s right for you, just send me a message. I’m always happy to chat.

With care,

Sandra Hillawi

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The Stories That Change Us

There’s something about love stories that warms the heart.

Not the dramatic ones you see in films but the quiet moments that almost pass unnoticed. The moments that remind us what really matters.

Last night we gathered for the first evening of a brand new Star Matrix Master journey.

Our purpose was simple.

To remember the moments of love, beauty, connection and happiness that are woven through every life, even when life itself has been difficult. The glimmers of light that are sprinkled through our life.

As the stories began to unfold, something beautiful happened….

Returning to Your Stars – A New Journey for Women Touched by Cancer

There are experiences in life that change us.

A diagnosis.
Supporting someone through treatment.
Living with uncertainty.
Adjusting to life after illness.
Trying to find yourself again.

Cancer can affect more than the body. It can quietly change identity, relationships, confidence and the story we tell ourselves about who we are.

Over recent years, through both my work and my own life accompanying my partner through cancer and ill health, I’ve been reminded again and again that even in the most difficult seasons, meaningful moments continue to exist.

Moments of courage.
Connection.
Unexpected joy.
Beauty.
Strength.
Understanding.

We call these Star Moments.

And often they become lights that help guide us back to ourselves.

That is why I’ve created Returning to Your Stars … a gentle 8-week online group journey for women whose lives have been touched by cancer.

This is not a treatment programme.

It is an invitation to pause, reflect, reconnect with your story and remember that you are more than what has happened to you.

Together, we will explore meaningful memories, reconnect with inner strengths and begin to notice the stars that may still be illuminating the path ahead.

If this speaks to something in you, I’d love to welcome you.

✨ Find out more and reserve your place here:

With love,
Sandra

When Relief Backfires: Supporting the Body Through Botox Side Effects

Botox is often used to help relieve chronic conditions like TMJ pain. But for some people, the reaction can be unexpectedly intense.

Recently, I worked with a client who experienced a strong response after a Botox injection. Her symptoms escalated quickly: pain, inflammation, nausea, and tension spreading into her ribcage for days. Her discomfort was at a 10/10. She felt overwhelmed in her own body.

Instead of fighting the experience, we took a different approach.

Step 1: Ending the Fight With What Already Happened

We began with a simple but powerful shift: allowing the experience to be as it was.

Resistance to pain is natural, but when something has already happened, resisting it often adds another layer of suffering. Gently acknowledging “this is what’s here right now” helped her body start to settle, even slightly.

Step 2: Bringing Gentle Attention to the Body

From that place of allowance, we introduced soft, non-invasive awareness to the body.

Not trying to fix.
Not trying to force change.
Just bringing a quality of calm, attentive presence.

As she stayed with this, her stomach pain began to soften. What was once tightly contracted started to feel more spacious. Her overall discomfort dropped from a 10 to around a 7.

Step 3: Shifting the Relationship With the Body

We then worked on how she was relating to her body.

Instead of seeing it as the source of the problem, she began speaking to it internally with appreciation:

“Thank you for doing your best to handle this. I know you’re working hard. I’m here with you.”

This shift, from frustration to support, reduced internal tension. The body no longer felt like an enemy, but something being supported through a difficult process.

Step 4: Meeting Specific Symptoms With Awareness

We brought focused attention to the nausea and bitterness rising from her stomach.

Rather than resisting it, she acknowledged it as part of the body’s response, possibly a protective or balancing mechanism. She stayed present with it, without panic.

Gradually, the nausea eased.

Finally, we focused on the injection site and jaw pain, applying the same principles of gentle awareness and softening. This too began to soften.

The Result

By the end of the session, her discomfort had reduced from a 10/10 to about a 5/10.

More importantly, her state had changed.
Her face softened. She was able to smile again.
The sense of overwhelm had lifted.

Continuing the Process

Healing didn’t end in that session.

She was encouraged to continue:

Bringing gentle attention to areas of discomfort
Speaking to her body with support rather than criticism
Allowing sensations instead of bracing against them

This becomes a practice, not a one-time fix.

A Note on Botox Reactions

Reactions to Botox can happen. Some people experience side effects like pain, flu-like symptoms, or muscle tension, especially when used for therapeutic purposes like TMJ.

If symptoms are severe or unusual, medical guidance should always be the first step.

A Different Way to Meet Pain

This approach isn’t about denying discomfort or avoiding medical care.

It’s about changing how we meet what’s already happening in the body.

Because sometimes, the shift from resistance to support is where healing begins.

The gentle energy healing method we used here was EMO Energy in Motion.

What Next?

If you’re dealing with ongoing pain, sensitivity, or strong reactions in the body and would like gentle support, you can book a free introductory session with me. We’ll explore what’s happening and whether this approach is right for you. Contact me by email or whatsapp below.

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