Stress begets stress and love begets love… unless you are The Transformer.
The Blocker, The Reactor or The Transformer, which emotional type are you?
As we meet and deal with the energies of life’s challenges there appears to me to be three major emotional responses, each with their consequences on the totality of stress versus love in the collective.
Let us examine relationship dynamics, the emotional effects of receiving other people’s stress and which type of responder are we?
The Blocker
This person has shields and defenses to stop the energies of life touching or moving them. They appear strong, tough, independent, closed. In other words what the sender says or does, as it arrives to the receiver, it is deflected from some kind of barrier to the heart.
This results in the Blocker feeling nothing. No emotional response.
The original sender, through their words and actions, expressing their feelings is not being heard, not getting through and certainly not understood. Their energy is being rejected.
The sender can feel frustrated and whatever issue lies within stays within and may even escalate after being rejected, his energy having nowhere to go.
The stress in life therefore continues with The Reactor as the sender and The Blocker as the receiver. The receiver is not affected in any way and their state of being remains unchanged.
There is no upward movement or ascension towards love in this situation. Both remain part of the stress problems of life.
Question When do you find yourself blocking incoming energies?
The Reactor
The Reactor is a person who is more open, more sensitive to the energies of life, what people say and do. A stressed sender’s energy is absorbed by the Reactor but triggers and old emotional injury or creates a new one. The Reactor’s emotional response is a stress emotion.
Speaking and acting from this stress creates more stress waves going out into the world around them. The original sender, already stressed, gets more stress waves in return which adds to their original stress. They become an even stronger Reactor themselves. Two Reactors can become explosive. Stress and pain is perpetuated in both sender and receiver.
Once again there is no upward movement or ascension towards love in this situation. Both remain part of the problem.
Question What kind of incoming energies do you find the most difficult to deal with and therefore react with stress?
The Transformer
The Transformer having developed some awareness of their emotions understands that their response is their responsibility and they are on a path to developing response-ability. They know and use EMO Energy in Motion.
As the sender (a Reactor) expresses their stress those waves arrive to The Transformer. This may trigger an initial stress response or may be already be handle-able by the heart and spirit of The Transformer.
Steps to Apply EMO
- In the case of an initial stress response, The Transformer understands that the incoming trigger has revealed an old injury or limitation within. Where do they feel this? They bring their attention to this disturbance feeling in the body.
- With loving attention they support themselves and use intention to soften the energy blockage and then return to energy flow thus transforming an initial stress emotion into a flowing positive emotion.
- They therefore transform the incoming energy offering themselves as a channel of flow as a response to the sender.
The result is The Transformer grows in patience, the ability to accept life, understand life, and grows stronger in love. This inner state of love is offered as a response to the sender who feels accepted, understood, is nourished by the receiver’s attention and experiences some release from their stress and a lightening of their spirit.
Question What percentage of life do you handle with ease, as The Transformer versus being The Reactor? What would your life be like if you could handle much more of life’s incoming energies?
Stresses of Life Thus End with The Transformers
Transformers create ever greater movements towards love within themselves and offer that back into the world. Transformers add to the ascension towards greater love of the collective.
So Which Type Are You? and Which One Do You Aspire To Be?
If, like me, you see yourself in all these types, at times, but you aspire to be The Transformer then you need tools for Emotional Transformation.
The most powerful tool for understanding and transforming emotional energy is EMO Energy in Motion
My Story
When I first met EMO Energy in Motion, I was definitely The Blocker. I was independent, sorted, nothing touched me. I didn’t have emotions and thought those who had them were weak I came to understand that behind my barriers was a wounded heart that I was protecting from feeling pain.
EMO helped me to heal my heart injuries, drop the shields to my heart and start to feel my emotions. I became The Reactor and The Transformer in progress. The more transformations I did the more I grew a deep, wide and strong heart of love to live my life with.
It didn’t happen overnight.
I remember my very first transformation experience at the EMO conference in Kensington London in 2002. I had felt an anxiety in my chest about being the only one in the room who couldn”t feel their emotions or energy flowing.
I applied EMO to transform the anxiety energy. I felt an expansion in my chest, like a balloon. It popped and a rush of joy flowed through my whole body accompanied with tears of release and astonishment at the discovery of something I had never felt before, the real energy movements of love and joy flowing within my body.
I continued to explore transforming emotional energy, whether the incoming energy was someone’s stress, anger, pain or even kindness appreciation and love. It was interesting to discover my own difficulty receiving love, though understandable, after-all I had been The Blocker most of my life.
It’s been an ongoing journey moving from The Blocker to The Reactor to The Transformer. The more I apply EMO to own, heal and transform my emotional responses from stress to love the stronger The Transformer I became and the stronger more steady channel of love, patience and compassion I become as a result.
How EMO Can Help You with Your Emotional Responses to Life
- EMO will allow you to heal the old injuries as they arise, when they are triggered by life, and thus transform your reactions to life now and in the future. What used to hurt you, once transformed, will assist you to become the person who can handle that resourcefully, consciously, with wisdom, clarity, power and compassion.
- EMO will allow you to grow your capacity of your heart and spirit deeper and wider so that you become a powerful channel for handling life energies of life more easily. You will become a channel of peaceful powerful love, back in alignment with your true nature with a heart of energy strong courageous and radiant. You will come to thank the incoming stress waves as they were the nudges to make this evolution in yourself.
- EMO will allow you to transform your response to an incoming trigger as it happens in the moment, enabling you to act consciously and deliberately in the moment as opposed to reacting unconsciously, to be able to offer love and understanding as opposed to rejection, judgement or stress.
- EMO will teach you the fundamentals, laws and structure of energy so that you understand how to heal yourself in all relationships and help others.
- EMO enables you to become The Facilitator, to assist others to become The Transformers and be part of the solution this stressed world needs which is more steady channels of Love.
Is EMO for you?
Do you aspire to be The Transformer or The Facilitator?
Do you want to feel less stress and more love?
Do you aspire to transform and become master of your emotions and energy and your responses to life?
Do you want feel that you are part of the solution, to stop being a source of more stress in the world, to follow the path of love and become the source of love that you were born to be?
How To Learn EMO Energy In Motion
Book a FREE Taster Session with me, Sandra Hillawi, to experience the power of EMO to transform your emotional responses.
Discover your pathway from Blocker to Reactor to Transformer and even become The Facilitator for others.
Welcome to the best ever evolution journey of your life.
Thank you for your attention. See you soon on zoom.
Sandra Hillawi
Master Energy Trainer
Credit to The Guild of Energists for use of the images from the EMO Training manual.
Sandra Hillawi 